Recently I have been reflecting on my motherhood journey so far. My eldest son turned 13 in May and as I enter this brand new season of motherhood, I have been in a contemplative mood.
Depending on where you are in your own motherhood journey, 13 years might seem like a long time or like nothing at all. Regardless, I am of the belief that we are always learning: whether we are brand new or a seasoned grandma, everyday can bring new opportunities to learn and grow.
With all of that being said, I’ve been considering MY personal lessons from motherhood thus far. Have I only learnt 13 lessons? No, I’ve learnt hundreds – some big and some small but for the purposes of this blog post, I will stick to 13 – one for each of my eldest son’s life.
When I first became a mother, I was 25 years old. By today’s standards, a relatively ‘young’ new mum. I was anxious, but determined to do my best for my tiny baby boy. My experiences with him turned into a lifelong love of pedagogy which has evolved over the years to become what I teach in This Playful Home courses and workshops.
This Playful Home’s play-centred teachings is based on a three-pillared approach: family rhythms, environment as the third teacher and the pedagogy of play. All three the result of my research and experiences as both a mother and a teacher.
With all of that being said, you might be wondering exactly what my 13 key lessons are? Once you’ve read through them all, I’d love you to message me either via email or on Instagram to let me know which lessons you’ve learnt yourself.
13 Lessons Learnt from 13 years of motherhood.
Motherhood Lesson 1: Simplify Everything
Motherhood Lesson 2: Presence is Better than Presents
Motherhood Lesson 3: Establish a gentle daily rhythm – it helps everyone!
Motherhood Lesson 4: Don’t make yourself an afterthought
Motherhood Lesson 5: Your child doesn’t need to have loads of toys to have a good childhood
Motherhood Lesson 6: Beware of fads and the latest ‘must have’ parenting item
Motherhood Lesson 7: Be in the photo occasionally for some ‘proof of mum’
Motherhood Lesson 8: You don’t have to buy into one specific parenting or educational philosophy
Motherhood Lesson 9: Speak up when you need help
Motherhood Lesson 10: Don’t overschedule yourself or your child
Motherhood Lesson 11: Tell your child you love them everyday
Motherhood Lesson 12: Give Plenty of Hugs
Motherhood Lesson 13: Listen closely to the small stuff
And finally, A bonus lesson
As I was typing out this blog post I realised that I had missed out one of the most important lessons of all, so here it is:
Perfection in motherhood is a myth
Hopefully you can see from the lessons I have learnt that being a perfect mother is a myth. Despite me being both a teacher and a mum, I have learnt many lessons and I continue to do so. I am not going to pretend for one second that I had motherhood completely figured out from the time my firstborn son was born over 13 years ago.
Show me the perfect mother and I’ll show you a unicorn.
Because seriously, perfect mothers exist in Instagram reels and nowhere else.
You will make mistakes, but guess what? You’ll learn from them and you’ll grow as a mother too.
What to Read Next
What if I told you that you didn’t have to figure everything out for yourself?
What if I told you I could help you plan out your playful year?
‘Your Playful Year’ is our low-cost membership over on Substack which you can get for as little as $5.80 per month. That’s basically the equivalent of one takeaway coffee + cake.
Why Pay To Subscribe?
- Get detailed, research-backed information from a qualified educator and mum to three children delivered straight to your inbox
- The monthly masterclasses will help you to delve into topics and reach a deeper understanding. This is simply not possible with social media posts and regular blogs
- The seasonal guides and resources will help you to play your upcoming season and focus on the things that matter most to your family
- Access to the playful prompts library will help you to create easy, engaging play invitations at a low-cost
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What Topics Are Included In The Focus Topics And Masterclasses?
This Playful Home is a three-pillared approach to raising children in the early years.
Learn how to raise your child with intentional rhythms, purposeful learning environments and play- centred educational philosophies so that you can design your own unique family roadmap.
HERE’S A RUNDOWN OF CURRENT AND UPCOMING TOPICS:
- family rhythms
- environment as the third teacher
- outdoor play
- toy rotations
- your role in play
- an introduction to play schemas
- how to set up intentional play invitations
Topics are detailed. Each month you get four emails introducing, then expanding upon the topic. You also get access to the monthly masterclass videos (I’m currently involved with Substacks’s video beta test) as well as printable resources and journal prompts.